At the TOATC we give our clients validation instead of reassurance and accommodation. Validation acknowledges the emotions a person is going through where accommodation feeds OCD.
Learning how to give reassurance instead of accommodating a family member with OCD can be difficult and confusing. Our lovely therapist Kate Rogers Ph.D. created a wonderful cheat sheet for all those in need of some help with this transition.
Remember you can show your family member or yourself love without reassurance or accommodation.